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Princess Ruth Komuntale of Tooro has finally broken the silence about her marriage to Christopher Thomas.
Last week Thomas wrote on his face book wall that her relationship with
Princess Komuntale was no more. However his revelations were treated
with skepticism.
But last night, Princess Komuntale posted on her face book wall
confirming that indeed their marriage has ended. In the post, Komuntale
accuses Thomas of being promiscuous and physically abusive.
According to Komuntale, a few weeks after their wedding, things got out
of hand. She says that Christopher Thomas physically abused her and
continued drinking heavily.
Komuntale cites an incident when Thomas called her asking her to join
him in a hotel in the United States where she found her husband sharing a
hotel room with a woman who as wrapped in a towel by the time of her
arrival.
Komuntale states that she has suffered long enough in silence and that
she tried to save their marriage on numerous occasions, but failed.
She says that she told Thomas that there is need for a break from the
relationship until she is certain that she will never be physically or
emotionally abused again. Komuntale notes that she was shocked when
Thomas responded by threatening to destroy her reputation and that of
her family unless she continues staying with him.
Komuntale notes that she is grateful to the women who have reached out to her and supported her in the last week.
She asks the media to give her some privacy as she embarks on a healing process.
However, the head of the Babitto Clan and paternal uncle to Komuntale,
Charles Kayondo Kamurasi says that he isn't aware of the developments.
Kamurasi says that he will only comment after speaking to Komuntale.
The Bishop of Rwenzori Diocese, Reuben Kisembo told Uganda Radio Network
that he wasn’t aware of the breakup, saying that he didn’t want to
comment on rumors.
He however adds that this would be a very unfortunate development for Komuntale and the people of Tooro.
Bishop Kisembo says that the couple should have tried opportunities like counseling to save their marriage.
Thomas Christopher and Princess Ruth Komuntale were wedded last year on
November 17th at St. John’s Cathedral, by the former Archbishop of
Uganda, His Grace Henry Luke Orombi. The Royal wedding was graced by
international and national dignitaries.
Prior to the wedding, Thomas was adopted into one of the clans of Toro Kingdom and given a pet name, Amooti.
In his speech during the wedding, the King of Tooro, Oyo Nyimba Kabamba
Iguru, urged the Batooro to respect her sister’s marriage to Thomas, a
non Mutooro. King Oyo said that the fact that Thomas’s ancestors hailed
from Africa, the Batooro should look at him as an African and not an
American.
Oyo also said that his sister’s marriage to Thomas should not be a cause
for concern to the Batooro, but be an opportunity for Tooro Kingdom to
create friendship outside the Kingdom.
Princess Komuntale's Full Statement
My fellow Ugandans, people of Tooro, friends, and supporters around the world;
Nimbaramukya n’okugonza n’obusinge bwa Mukama. As you well know, last
year, I married Christopher Thomas, an African American young man from
St. Louis, Missouri. Like all marriages, we have had our peaks and
valleys that we dealt with privately. However, there are challenges we
encountered that cannot be reconciled or easily forgotten.
For the person we love, we are reluctant to believe their negative
traits and behaviors; love also made me blind, and unable to see the
negatives. Yet, a number of issues surfaced requiring me to take a step
back and reflect on those values that define us individually and as a
couple. Unfortunately, through this process, I realized that Chris and I
were heading in two separate paths, because of his personality,
promiscuousness, and the physical and emotional domestic abuse.
For example, as you may have seen in the media, a few weeks after our
wedding, things got out of hand. Chris physically abused me and
continued drinking heavily, which led to more promiscuity and
infidelity. While he was out one night, he called asking me to join him
in a hotel with “a nice view.” I thought he probably wanted to surprise
me with something nice. But on arriving at the hotel he took me to a
room where a woman was standing in a towel. They were obviously together
before I arrived. When I asked him why he was doing this to me, his
response was that he wanted to make me feel jealous because other men
wanted to dance with me when were out the previous night.
I could go on and on about how Chris physically and emotionally
tormented me. I am so ashamed to mention all the things he has put me
through, but it is about time everyone knows the truth. I have suffered
in silence long enough, and I am tired. I tried to save my marriage
numerous times and forgave all his transgressions in vain. I have also
worked extremely hard to keep my private life to myself, and avoid
making a public spectacle, but I have been left with no choice but to
come out and tell the whole truth.
Due to the continuous abuse I have endured in my marriage, this week I
told Chris we needed a break from our relationship until I could be
certain I will never be physically or emotionally abused again. Chris
responded by going into a rage, threatened to destroy my reputation and
that of my family unless I stayed with him. He gave me an ultimatum to
change my mind in five minutes or he would publically humiliate me but I
refused to give in to his usual controlling tricks.
Before I knew it, he went on Facebook and posted wild and false
allegations to damage my reputation and force me to do what he wants.
Using his Facebook account, the ‘Princess komuntale’ page, and the
‘Batebe’ facebook page which are under his sole control and do not
belong to me, he posted humiliating and painful lies for the world to
see. But I refused to allow myself to get back in abusive relationship
so that he could stop blackmailing me.
I loved my husband and respected him and our marriage vows until the
end and it saddens to announce that our marriage has ended. I plan to
move forward with my life where I am not abused every day.
I want to take this opportunity to thank all those who have stood by me
in this challenging period. I am eternally grateful for your support
and encouragement. I am especially humbled and heartened by my fellow
women who have endured domestic abuse and have reached out to me and
supported me in the last week.
This painful ordeal has taught me many important life lessons. First,
that sheer one-sided love is not sufficient for a life-long
relationship. Secondly, that one ought to have exceptional judgment of
character before entering a life-long commitment. This comes with
long-term courtship. And third, love should not hurt, abuse, or torment.
To those women who find themselves in a situation similar to mine, I
urge you to take a stand against anyone who can harm you physically or
emotionally. It’s not worth it. I tried it for over a year and it never
works out. Remember, marriage should not be a trap, but rather a healthy
relationship that supports the best interests of both; it should be
based on mutual respect, it should bring happiness, it should bring two
souls together for a life-long mutual commitment.
At this time, I kindly ask you for your prayers and support. I also ask
the media to allow me some privacy as I embark on a healing process. I
am strong and I know with God’s help I will be a better person because
of this.
May God bless you, Tooro, and our country Uganda.
Sincerely,
HRH Ruth Nsemere Komuntale